We all love to receive gifts, but with respect to a wedding, we should try to focus on what a wedding really means. No, I don’t mean, “Gee, free stuff; the more the better.” A wedding is about the joining of two people who love each other so much that they pledge their lives to each other forever and they want to make this commitment with friends and family present. This is a profound act worthy of respect. So, let’s review a bit of wedding etiquette as it relates to the all-important wedding gift.
· Never mention gifts (gift choices or gift registry) on the invitation.
· To publicize your registry information use a wedding website or ‘word of mouth.’
The one exception is the bridal shower invitation - list it there
· Ask for cash gifts or gift certificates by ‘word of mouth’ and your wedding website.
· Honeymoon registries are appropriate.
· Do not use any of the gifts until after a wedding.
All gifts, even shower gifts, must be returned if the wedding is cancelled or annulled before living together as a married couple.
· Gift giving for vow renewal or reaffirmation ceremonies are not mandatory, but is a nice gesture.
· Life style gifts are perfect for the reaffirmation, or for the encore bride.
· Certificates to a spa or a favorite restaurant
· Vacation package
· A night in a nice lodge